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To a small degree, I was like this, when i was young and before I just approached women I found attractive.
What you're doing, is what women do, to attract a man they find attractive. Women rarely, IF EVER, approach a man. But, they will do, even say things they think will get his attention, in the hopes they capture his intertest enough to pursue.
This is a VERY human trait, it's just a feminine one.
One of the other annons who responded said he 'stares', (or, used to stare). This is a better approach. Though, you need to react, based on how she reacts when she catches you. And, you do want her to see you, noticing her. You can gauge her interest, if you do this correctly and you might need to do this differently, per individual woman and the setting.
Let's stick with train.
When you stare, perhaps not constantly, (and NEVER intensely), you want to make eye contact, smile warmly or politely (naturally) and then look away after a very brief moment.
Women are really good at noticing everyone, even when you think they don't. Be aware that women are very subtle and use their peripheral vision much better than men (in most settings and situations). So, if you're staring too intensely, this can make them feel like they are being stalked. (contrary to many female fantasies, they don't like this in real life)
After you look away, (hopefully after she has smiled back, but even if she doesn't), you wait a period of time before you get caught again. If she smiled, it should be brief. If she didn't smile, give her time to process you. Meaning, she might need to look you over and think about it.
Women don't always know if they're attracted to someone, right away. It really depends on their current situation and mood. It could be a simple as their thoughts were completely consumed by (insert ANYTHING here).
If after she catches you, she turns her body away from you. She is either not available, feels threatened, is repulsed or all of the above.
If she just shifts, and turns subtly and very slowly, she could just feel threatened, is shy or both. All is not lost here, you just need to let her process this longer. Even as far as waiting the next working day.
If she smiles, you want to wait a short period of time. And, you will change things very slightly. One, you still want her to process you.
Make sure after making eye contact, you do not shift away from her.
Use your peripheral vision, to see if she looks at you, without YOU looking at her. If you do this, right, and convincingly, she will look even IF she isn't interested.
If she is staring, SLOWLY turn towards her. The idea is to give her a chance to look away. If she's bold, she will LET you catch her. But, most women will look away. If she does let you, smile, say hello or wave. If she responds the same way, approach her.
If she turns away, (majority always will), some fast, others more naturally and how they do it doesn't mean what you might think. So, don't let her response at this point, change the next step.
Give her some more time to process. But, do NOT shift yourself away from her. She might shift away from you, if she does, this might not be a bad thing. Just give her more time.
You want to keep briefly looking at her again, giving her a small window to catch you.
If she interested, open and available, she will catch you, and turn towards you, make eye contact. if she does, and doesn't turn her body away from you, she's interested. Go to her, say hello and introduce yourself.
If you're unsure, go over, say hello and introduce yourself. EVERY man, ( and I mean EVERY), has been rejected. Don't take it personally and don't feel shitty.
Be some level of confident, or fake being comfortable. Don't be OVER confident. Just be or fake being comfortable going over.
Getting rejected sucks. But it's normal. Even if a woman finds you attractive, she might reject you. And there are thousands of reasons why.
Like anything, finding a woman takes effort and if you expect it to be easy and the situation to be perfect, you will end up becoming desperate.
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You can either let life happen around you, or you can stand up, go over and take a risk.
It's easier said, than done. But, I'm older. I've lived and i used to be really good with women. But, i was bad at women, before i got good.
Once you accept the possibility of rejection, it's easy to get used to it. And, you SHOULD get used to it.
If you're terrified of getting rejected. Do this, go out purposefully to get rejected, until you no longer care, or aren't afraid of getting rejected. Find the hottest women you can, approach them and ask them out.
Once you're no longer terrified of getting rejected, you'll find it's a powerful asset.